Dear Gentle Reader, many thanks for passing by. I trust you are well and spirit lighting your life.
Today, we buried my dear friend Tony.
Tony was a star and light in my life. As we laid his coffin in the cold heavy earth, I glanced over at Tony’s mother, her face shrunken, tears frozen on her heart.
What Could I Do, Offer Her As A Way Of Comfort, Solace?
How do you comfort someone who is grieving and mourning the loss of a loved one?
What can you do to ease their pain, sense of loss, vulnerability and maybe anger and guilt?
What Is Death?
Pastor Phillip gave a stirring biblical account of death. Of life. Yet, what is life?. How can we truly celebrate, rejoice in life if we don’t know what death is? Can you live your life in the face of death?
How Do You Console Someone Who Is Greiving?
From personal experience, I know the sting of death. The cruel hand of fate which took my brother, my cousin and dear baby child away. Yet, as life moves on their passing has shaped the person I am today.
If you are grieving, feeling sad, lost and missing your loved ones, there is not much i can do. All I can offer is my heart. my love and sense of trust in the universe that life is for living. That your son, sister, cousin, work colleague’s death wasn’t in vain.
If you are grieving I hope these simple words, pointers which I have used during my grief process can ease your pain.
1. Be Gentle With Yourself.
Losing someone you love rocks your world. Everything is slightly knocked off center. The world carries on as if nothing has happened. Yet your son, daughter, friend has died. How can the world carry on? Yet it does and, in time, you will too. The pain will always be there yet time and love has a way of dulling the sharpness of your wound.
2. Be At Peace With Yourself.
Maybe you wish you could of said goodbye, been there to say hi, I love you. Maybe you had an argument with your loved one and regret not having the chance to say all the things you wanted too. Perhaps you never had a chance to say thank you, well done for passing your exams or how was your day.
Don’t go there. Please don’t torment yourself.
You cant change the past. What has been said has been said. You cant change the past. You can learn from it and with time, move on,. You have done your best. Gave your best and at the end of the day,no one knows what the next breath brings.
3. Have Fun With Yourself And With Others
Life is for living. I know there are days when you feel tired, fed-up and exhausted by the demands of family-work life. Children grow older and you get wiser. When you can, remember to laugh and see the lighter side of life.
4. Have Faith In Your Ability To Touch Your Dreams
We all have dreams. What is your dream? What rhythms flow through you at nighttime and stir your heart when you awake? hold onto your dreams, no matter how crazy or untouchable they may seem. Nurse them quietly, share them. You may not live to see them come true. But mark my words, someone, somewhere will see your dream through in memory of you. So dream and be happy.
5.Celebrate And Acknowledge Your Beauty
Maybe you see yourself as an ugly duckling or carry around scars from childhood. In the face of death we are all beautiful. Your soul shines and your glory is revealed. Why wait till death to celebrate your life? Do it now. Take a moment and write down a few notes, create a song or post a video on Youtube of you celebrating your life.
Forward it to me and I will be happy to share it
Just be happy. And live your live the best you can.
Thanks for taking the time to read these few words. Please excuse any grammar or spellings. I just wanted to share and get some of my grief out. And if you are grieving or worried about loved ones who are in pain and mourning, I invite you to check out my inspirational book of grief and loss poems Returning Home to the Healing Waters of My Soul, which offers words of comfort and support. Buy your copy over on my Amazon Kindle store when you click here
Take special care of you.